Change can leave you feeling indecisive, scared, and even stressed. It’s scary to move out of your safe zone and into the unknown of doing something different. So, in comes actress Betty White. It’s no secret that I’m a big fan. Betty doesn’t know it, but anyone who hangs out with me is well aware that she’s one of my idols. To me, Betty is fearless, funny, and real. She’s a perfect example of percolating the best cup of coffee around. She inspires me with her class and humor. In times of indecision, I often ask myself WWBWD: What Would Betty White Do?
Would she choose a cup of the serious Sumatra or go for a lighter New England blend? The answer is clear and always the same: Betty would probably laugh and go light!
I love and appreciate that she doesn’t take herself too seriously. She exudes a level of confidence and courage that I constantly aspire to achieve. You’ll often hear me say: “In any time of indecision or confusion, ask yourself #WWBWD? 99.9 percent of the time you’ll have your answer.” I really do think that laughter is the best stress crusher. I strongly believe that we should just be ourselves and be hilarious doing it. By doing so, we show the world that we’re confident and comfortable being who we are. So the next time you’re feeling overly stressed, see if you can find a glimmer of humor in it, and ask yourself WWBWD. I promise you that if you just stop and ask yourself this question, nine times out of ten, you’ll laugh or have distracted yourself from the problem. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take what is happening seriously. It really just means to try to put things into perspective and keep the stress in check.
If finding the right dress for an event puts you straight into heart palpitation mode, for example, go pick out the craziest, ugly dress you can find at the store, try it on, and have a laugh at yourself. If you get crazed every time you try to put on false eyelashes, like I do, find a few stuck to your hair during an important event once or twice in your lifetime, and have a crazy good chuckle. It’s amazing how freeing it is to be able to laugh at yourself. No longer do you worry about what others think, but instead, you gain the self-assurance to feel that you can handle anything that comes your way. Once you achieve this feeling, you gain the ability to dream big. Remember Walt Disney’s wise words: “If you can dream it, you can do it.” Well, it’s true— you can! In fact, to make changes and better choices in your life, dream about them first. I say dream and keep dreaming with a dash of determination, decisiveness, and sense of humor thrown in.
Reach up and set the bar higher with everything you do. Commitment and consistency help dreams become reality. Stay the course and never give up. The journey getting to your dreams will be nothing like what you imagined. In fact, you’ll discover that what you’ve dreamed actually takes on many forms along the way. However, the most important thing is to remember to stay the course, hold steady, and embrace opportunities.
Taking the First Step
Let’s take that first step to achieving your goals. Remember, choose the lighter blend of life and stay true to yourself as you begin the voyage. I know you have the courage to do it, and you know you have it.
Grab your Percolate journal and reflect on these questions:
• It’s decision time: Will your goals stay a dream, or will they become a reality?
• What factors will help you decide to make a huge change?
• Will you feel better?
• What will be mended?
• What will get broken?
• What can you live with?
• What can you live without?
• Have you evaluated the pros and cons?
• Do you feel comfortable knowing what you’re getting into?
There is one more level of courage, determination, and self-confidence that is necessary before taking that first step. It’s a leap of faith! Having the courage to change ultimately relies on the faith you have in yourself and your ability to cope with whatever arises. There are no right or wrong answers when making the decision to change; there are no guarantees that one option will ultimately be the best. That’s why a variety of choices will eventually make the process better.
We create our best change.
Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino is the author of PERCOLATE – Let Your Best Self Filter Through (Hay House 4/14/14) and founder and CEO of theBest Ever You Network. Elizabeth understands firsthand the challenges life can bring and has worked with thousands across the globe to illuminate their light within and help them live their best life. She has a degree in communications and broadcasting; is a life coach, food-allergy expert, and anaphylaxis survivor; and is the host of The Best Ever You Show. Elizabeth lives with her husband and four boys in Maine.